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<hr style="width: 65%;" /><p><span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="Page_67" id="Page_67"></SPAN></span><br/><span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="Page_68" id="Page_68">[68]</SPAN></span></p> <h2><span class="smcap">Lesson X.</span></h2> <hr style="width: 65%;" /> <div class='bbox'><h3>OUTLINE FOR BLACKBOARD.</h3> <div class="figcenter"> <ANTIMG src="images/divider.png" width-obs="150" height-obs="9" alt="Divider" title="" /></div> <div class='center'>MANNERS IN STORES AND SIMILAR PUBLIC PLACES.<br/> <b>——————————</b></div> <div class='center'> <table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" summary="Notes for blackboard"> <tr><td align='left'><i>Shutting doors.</i><br/> <i>How to ask for articles in stores.</i><br/> <i>Making trouble for clerks.</i><br/> <i>Handling goods.</i><br/> <i>Finding fault with articles or prices.</i><br/> <i>Courtesy to other customers.</i><br/> <i>Courtesy to clerks.</i><br/> <i>Conduct in the post-office,—entering in crowds, not waiting for others, noise and rudeness.</i><br/> <i>Visiting railroad stations.</i><br/> <i>Two things to consider.</i><br/></td></tr> </table></div> <br/><br/></div> <hr style="width: 65%;" /><p><span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="Page_69" id="Page_69"></SPAN></span></p> <h2>LESSON X.</h2> <div class='chaptertitle'>MANNERS IN STORES AND SIMILAR PUBLIC PLACES.</div> <p><span class="smcap">On</span> entering or leaving a store in cold weather we should consider the comfort of those behind the counters and shut the door, if there is no one whose business it is to do it for us. We ought to state clearly and definitely what we want to buy, and patiently explain if the clerk, through inexperience or dulness, does not at first understand our request.</p> <p>A good supply of patience and politeness is needed in shopping, and a true lady or gentleman will not lose temper or forget good manners, even if a clerk is impertinent or disobliging.</p> <p>We should not make unnecessary trouble for clerks by asking them to take down and unfold piece after piece of goods for us to examine, if we have no intention of buying. Many ladies do this habitually, because they enjoy it, and then wonder that the clerks are not more polite. If we wish merely to examine before buying at some future time, it is better to say so, and then the merchant or clerk will not be disappointed if we do not purchase.</p> <p>We should handle delicate fabrics in stores as carefully as if they were our own, and not tumble them over, leaving ribbons and laces in tangled heaps, especially if we do not buy.</p> <p>We should not find fault with the quality of articles.<span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="Page_70" id="Page_70"></SPAN></span> If we are not satisfied, it is enough to say that the goods do not suit us, without making disparaging remarks to the clerk, who has no responsibility in the matter.</p> <p>It is a sign of ignorance and ill-breeding to haggle over the price of a thing and try to induce the seller to take less for it. In Oriental countries, it is said, the dealer always asks at first four times the price he expects to receive, but in our country this is not customary, and the price stated is supposed to be fair and final. If we think the article is not worth the price, or if it is beyond our means, it is best to say we do not wish to pay so much and leave it. If the dealer can afford to sell it cheaper, and will do so for the sake of our buying, it is his place to offer it for less, not ours to ask. If he asks more than a thing is worth, hoping to take advantage of our need of it or our ignorance, he ought to be punished by our refusal to buy.</p> <p>We should wait our turn at a counter and regard the convenience of others as well as ourselves. It is not polite to demand the attention of a clerk who is waiting upon another customer, or to take up what another is looking at. If we are in great haste, and customers who seem to have plenty of time are at the counter before us, we may sometimes ask their permission to be waited on while they are looking at goods, apologizing for doing so. If we are sitting at a counter, we should politely give our seat to an older lady, or to one who looks weary.<span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="Page_71" id="Page_71"></SPAN></span></p> <p>If a clerk takes uncommon pains to please us, or puts himself to more trouble than we have a right to expect, we must not forget to thank him. If customers are polite and considerate, they seldom have reason to complain of those behind the counter. The same is true at post-offices, railroad stations, and wherever we are served by others.</p> <p>These general principles of politeness in stores can be applied in all similar public places.</p> <p>The post-office is often the scene of most unmannerly conduct on the part of boys and girls, especially just after the close of school, when they all rush in for letters. Instead of quietly walking up to the window, one at a time, the boys giving way to the girls when there is but one place of delivery, and both boys and girls waiting for older people, they are apt to go in by dozens, crowding to the window and clamoring for their letters, making themselves extremely annoying to all grown people present.</p> <p>We should say, "I would like a dozen stamps, if you please," or, "Please weigh this letter," rather than, "I want a dozen stamps," or, "Weigh this letter, will you?"</p> <p>The post-office is a place of business, like a store or a bank. Our only object in going there is to mail or receive letters, which we should do like any other business,—in a quiet, respectable manner. No one has a right to stand around in the way of others, or to make it a place of idle resort. No well-bred person, even a child, will indulge in loud laughing and talking,<span class="pagenum"><SPAN name="Page_72" id="Page_72"></SPAN></span> staring at or making remarks about people, or other conspicuous behavior here or in any public resort.</p> <p>A railroad station is also a place of business, and unless it is necessary for us to go there, we had better stay away. In small towns it is quite a fashion for boys and girls to go to the station "to see the cars come in"; but it is not improving to their manners or morals. If they could realize, especially the girls, how out of place they appear standing on platforms, where they have no occasion to be, jostled by passengers and baggage-men, and exposed to the rude remarks of passers-by, they would never go there unnecessarily.</p> <p>In all public places we should consider, in reference to our conduct, two things: first, the courtesy we owe to others; and second, the respect we owe to ourselves.</p> <div style="break-after:column;"></div><br />

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